Did Susan from marketing just roll her eyes at you? Maybe you’re constantly forgotten about when it comes to after-hours social events? Or are there post-it notes detailing your gruesome death on your computer each morning? All of these are signs that your co-workers might secretly hate you.
Maintaining a good and healthy relationship with your co-workers is vital to staying creative and being productive. According to the Gallup Organization, people who have a best friend at work are 7 times more likely to be engaged in their jobs. And it doesn’t have to be a best friend: the study found that people who simply had a good friend in the workplace are more likely to be satisfied.
However, just in case you are suffering from a bout of 9-5 paranoia, Business Insider has put together the following infographic. It lists 16 ways to identify the subtle clues that your co-workers are giving to express that they don’t like you.
While it’s impossible to be liked by everyone, especially at the office, you definitely don’t want to be the person no one likes. If things continue to escalate, click here for tips on how to deal with conflict in the workplace.
Do your co-workers secretly hate you?
Your gut tells you they don’t like you
If you feel that your co-workers don’t like you, it could just be in your head, but it could also be true. Trust your gut and continue looking for other signs if you have a strong feeling about this.
They don’t smile when you’re around
We’re not talking about the occasional bad day or mood swing. If your co-workers make a conscious effort not to smile when you’re in the room, something isn’t right.
They can’t maintain eye contact with you
It’s difficult to look someone straight in the eyes when you don’t like or respect them. Something’s wrong if you notice colleagues avoiding eye contact with you.
They avoid you
If you notice your co-workers take the stairs when they see you waiting for the elevator, or they wait to see you return from the break room before they head in, those are good signs they’re avoiding you.
They spread rumours
This is childish and unprofessional behaviour, but it happens in workplaces all the time: Someone doesn’t like you so they spread rumours.
They don’t acknowledge your presence
If your colleagues don’t say “Good morning” when you arrive or “Have a good night” on the way out, they may be telling you they don’t like you.
They’re short with you
If you ask “How’s it going” and they always respond with “OK” or “Fine”—or if their emails always get straight to the point and never begin with a friendly “Hello” or “Good afternoon,” this may be a sign they’re not a huge fan of you.
They give off negative body language
Whether it’s a subtle eye roll or constantly assuming a closed-off position with arms folded across their chest, your co-workers’ body language will often reveal their true feelings toward you.
They never invite you to social events
If you never make the cut for lunch, happy hour, or project meetings over coffee, your co-workers may be trying to send you a message.
They communicate primarily with you through email, even though you sit close by
If your co-workers hate you, they’ll probably try to limit their in-person communication with you.
They constantly disagree with you
Continuously gunning down your ideas is a sign they don’t like you. It’s because they may be biased against all your ideas, regardless of their merit.
They never ask about your personal life
If you notice your colleagues speak to each other about their kids and hobbies, but never bring up these topics with you, they’re probably not interested in hearing about your life.
They don’t include you in their office banter
Socializing at work is important for bonding with co-workers. If you’re excluded, that’s likely a clue your colleagues are uncomfortable around you.
Those co-workers could just be glory-hogs. But if they go out of their way to steal the limelight from you and only you, they may be trying to drive you out.
They assume unauthorized power
Sometimes co-workers who want to muscle in on your position will play boss even when they have no authority.
There’s a fundamental lack of trust
If you’re questioned excessively about your motives or your co-workers only dole out information on a need-to-know basis, they hate you and may be trying to sabotage your career.